Sitting in a dingy waiting area of an auto body shop which consists of three folding chairs and a stack of battered romance novels feeling guilty for my poor car getting its oil changed at 2400 miles over the number recommended on the sticker in the top left hand corner of my windshield.
I will never be the person who changes their oil on time.
I’m trying not to consider this a personality flaw.
Instead, I will always be the person who remembers your face, and asks if you need more wine.
I will offer to help with the dishes after dinner and it won’t be just a hollow gesture.
Be as kind to yourself as you are to everyone else.
Why is this so hard to remember?
And because it’s 4/30 and I can’t help myself:
The only person you have to prove yourself to
– alternative medicine with my urban zen sister
– sipping on
gin and juice tea and finishing this book finally
– massage therapy for the oldies
– kimchi making with the bestie
– jogging (soft j) with the roomie
P.s. Three pieces of advice from the trauma bay
1. Drive safe
2. Always wear a seatbelt
3. Never ride a horse
In my youtube binging yesterday, I stumbled on this great video. We talked yesterday about how maybe we shouldn’t focus so much on beauty, and define women solely in that context. But regardless of gender, none of us are immune to insecurities. Except when we were younger and the world hadn’t told us to be ashamed of our bodies.
I had never heard of Jubilee Project before this video, but I had to learn more, especially since any Asian who isn’t pursuing medicine/law/business instantly piques my interest (also how cute is he).
Jubilee Project was started by three friends, and “exists to tell stories that inspire change.” They’ve partnered with some amazing organizations to raise money for causes ranging from deafness to Alzheimer’s to homelessness.
And then they have short films like this one. About unconditional love and devotion, which can seem hokey at moments, but then all of a sudden you’re weeping in front of your computer and glad your roommate isn’t home.
And finally, here’s one more from the kids, since almost everything is better from their point of view.
“It feels sort of like you’ll never be lonely.”
Dove recently released another video for their Real Beauty campaign, in which women had to choose between two entrances: Beautiful or Average. The idea behind the video being that beauty is a choice, and you are not defined by our current standards of beauty. All you have to do is choose to be beautiful, and you will be beautiful. You can see the video for yourself, below.
I actually really enjoyed it, and sent it to many of my female friends when it came out. Per their wiki page, the campaign’s mission is “to create a world where beauty is a source of confidence and not anxiety.” I don’t see how anyone can argue with that.
But apparently there are a lot of people who disagree. I came across one blogger who wrote a post entitled F*ck Beautiful. And maybe it’s true, maybe we need to get rid of that word altogether. It’s certainly not a lens through which we view men. Funny or Die even spoofed the ad with their Size Matters video.
I understand that Dove is a for-profit company, and this is one of the most brilliant and successful ad campaigns, but I don’t think those things take away from the fact that it’s still helping us change the way we perceive beauty. I’m sure critics will say that I’m being overly simplistic and manipulated by the giant advertising machine, but I am enjoying all their videos without buying any of their products (Neutrogena 4 lyfe).
I know which door I would’ve gone through a year ago. Now, I hope I would choose beautiful.
“To me, you are still nothing more than a little boy who is just like a hundred thousand other little boys. And I have no need of you. And you, on your part, have no need of me. To you I am nothing more than a fox like a hundred thousand other foxes. But if you tame me, then we shall need each other. To me, you will be unique in all the world. To you, I shall be unique in all the world.”
The Little Prince, by Antoine de Saint-Exupéry…is being made into a movie.
And Jeff Bridges will always be the perfect gruff father figure.
1. Zara’s mid-season sale = my lunch break. That yellow dress is spring…for only $24.95.
2. A trend I can’t get behind, mainly because it reminds me of my old Korean grandpa.
3. Mother’s Day is May 10th, which means you have three weeks to buy her something she’ll return or re-gift. Or this card, for the woman who taught you how to love generously and make kimchi pancakes.
4. Cup of Jo just posted an interview with a weddings reporter with relationship advice that’s actually helpful. One of many pearls:
What to look for in a partner: I once interviewed a psychologist for a column, and I asked him readers’ questions about what to look for in a mate. Without fail, his answer to almost every question was “choose someone kind, choose someone kind.” It was like a broken record, and I was annoyed. But you know what? Being with somebody who is fundamentally kind — to children and waiters and dogs — means that at the end of the day, they will be kind to you.
5. Just started this show and I’m addicted.
6. Tomorrow is Administrative Professionals Day. That’s all.